Your Perception, is Just That...Yours

About 7 months ago, a friend told me that she didn't think that I had "JOY" in my life. I was taking aback, because I was thinking that she didn't seem to be too thrilled about her own life. This was said under the guise of "as your friend." Mind you, I was in a bit of a tizzy at that time, but for someone to sum up my life as not having any "JOY" was just ridiculous. Aside from feeling a little alone in the world from time to time, and being in a little financial turmoil (presently), I treasure each and every moment, and enjoy each and every experience of my existence fully. I think that as humans we tend to look at other peoples lives from our own and filter, without understanding that because we see something one way, does not make it the "Final Answer." My sister had to recently check me on my assessment of her life. Without going into detail, her point was heard loud in clear. I think too often we see things only through our own rose colored lens. If you're a natually perky upbeat person, that doesn't make a low energy solemn person unhappy and depressed, that just makes them different from you. Or vice versa, that doesn't make an upbeat, perky person fake or inauthentic. It just makes them who they are. In friend situations, it's often a constant struggle to make the other person into who you want them to be. Instead, of accepting them as they are, we tend to push our own agendas and feelings onto others. Let me be me, and you be you.

So now when, I give my point of view on anyone's situation, I always preface it with "Now, this is MYYYYY perception, and what IIIIIIIIIIII see to be true..."